Ikoku na Retro

These hentai are mostly female-gazey, romance-based, and relatively vanilla. No loli's, no incest, minimal yuri/yaoi, no NTR in the ML/FL's established relationship. The protagonist ends up with one character in a monogamous relationship.

The anime on this list primarily focus on the pleasure and sex appeal of men and women equally. The men are depicted as conventionally attractive.

Actual josei hentai is towards the top and seinen anime that I would consider romantic and female-friendly is towards the bottom.