The dialogues

Aug 27, 2025 6:32 AM

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Zarutaku

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Seems like ordinary Japanese overpoliteness.

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Aug 27, 2025 6:40 AM

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Yeah its too much,very annoying after some time

Aug 27, 2025 6:50 AM

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100% agreed
Even though it serves to be a wholesome series, it needs to stay natural. Saying komenasai every 10 seconds period remains as something i would personally change since it is in fact very annoying.

Aug 27, 2025 6:53 AM

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RaiYou

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I think it's to fit the tone of the series. There is some awkwardness on how Rintarou and Kaoruko meet for the first time - especially given the typical behavior of Kaoruko's prestigious school that held back their relationship, but now they've grown more noticeably comfortable with each other compared to their earlier, awkward encounters.

While it's a bit excessive to some, I don't see that a big problem because the leads are kind and respectful compared to the more toxic dynamics in some romance anime.

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Aug 27, 2025 7:12 AM

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I think it just makes up for better communication through characters. One main problem I have with romances is the MISCOMMUNICATION!!!!! Seriously, and saying "small" things like "sorry" or "thank you" just shows the bond through these characters and love that they have for eachother by saying those things, if anything its something i love about this series even if its "overdone" its better than saying absolutely nothing at all

Aug 27, 2025 7:20 AM

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anemoiaism

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I mean I get what you're saying, but it's to be expected with the amount of sensitive characters with good hearts we have.

The foundations of their relationships are built off the awkwardness, misunderstandings, minor conflicts, and whatnot, so it feels natural.

Aug 27, 2025 7:23 AM

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Teto_tor

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I agree. It's one of the few thing that bother me about fragmat flower.

Aug 27, 2025 8:23 AM

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What I think is that they use it excessively now and later it’ll lessen and lessen until the over-politeness is gone. I’m assuming it’s there as a small detail to eventually show the progression in their relationship. But that’s just my theory if it even makes sense.

Aug 27, 2025 8:55 AM

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As I was saying since the very first episode, they talk weirdly. Most conversations are full of exclamations, reactions, and small comments either apology or praise. The umpteenth "sorry" doesn't necessarily make a character kind. It only makes the awkwardness more forced.

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Aug 27, 2025 9:18 AM

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It’s how Japanese society works. How many anime do you need to watch before figuring that out? Watch Disney channel if you find typical Japanese behaviour annoying. Or battle shonen.

Aug 27, 2025 12:00 PM

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UpToNoGood said:
I like this anime but I kinda agree with the latest review. The use of 'sorry' and 'thank you' feels a bit excessive. What do you guys think?

Yes! Finally someone said that. It's so annoying

Aug 27, 2025 3:43 PM

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UpToNoGood said:
I like this anime but I kinda agree with the latest review. The use of 'sorry' and 'thank you' feels a bit excessive. What do you guys think?

YESSSS EAXCTLY IT FEELS LIKE THERES NO PATTERJUST PEOPLE SAYING THANK YOU VERY CONSVERSATION with no substance otherwise

Aug 27, 2025 5:09 PM

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FutoiOtaku said:
It’s how Japanese society works. How many anime do you need to watch before figuring that out? Watch Disney channel if you find typical Japanese behaviour annoying. Or battle shonen.

Relax old man, being 58 might make your patience load slower than Windows 95, but that’s no reason to be rude to someone just asking a normal question.

Aug 27, 2025 5:09 PM

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if you have a problem with characters being excessively kind and apologetic with each other then that sounds like a you problem. The whole series is about how both schools don’t like each other, just being nice and respectful to each other shows theyre trying to stop any miscommunication happening between them.

Plus the vibe of the anime gives off wholesomeness, more depth and respectfulness for every character, we need anime like this more.

Aug 27, 2025 5:28 PM

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I actually find the dialogue to be very natural and one of the best part about this series, but I do live in Japan which the series is set in. Of course non-Japanese are going to dislike this because it really wasn’t made with global standards in mind unlike a lot of other series that has more generic dialogue.

Aug 27, 2025 5:38 PM

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H1NAT4 said:
if you have a problem with characters being excessively kind and apologetic with each other then that sounds like a you problem. The whole series is about how both schools don’t like each other, just being nice and respectful to each other shows theyre trying to stop any miscommunication happening between them.

Plus the vibe of the anime gives off wholesomeness, more depth and respectfulness for every character, we need anime like this more.

Best take I’ve seen. Given the context they need to be extra respectful and considerate, and it also makes sense given the tone of the story. If one does not like this type of show they should drop entirely instead of singling out this one part to complain about.

Aug 27, 2025 5:51 PM

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Prepare your cheeks because it will not stop.

Aug 27, 2025 5:57 PM

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Ripperdoc said:

FutoiOtaku said:
It’s how Japanese society works. How many anime do you need to watch before figuring that out? Watch Disney channel if you find typical Japanese behaviour annoying. Or battle shonen.

Relax old man, being 58 might make your patience load slower than Windows 95, but that’s no reason to be rude to someone just asking a normal question.

And your point is? I may be retired and have plenty of spare time, but that dumb attempt at a put down isn’t worth any of it.

Aug 27, 2025 6:48 PM

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Reply to FutoiOtaku

Ripperdoc said:

FutoiOtaku said:
It’s how Japanese society works. How many anime do you need to watch before figuring that out? Watch Disney channel if you find typical Japanese behaviour annoying. Or battle shonen.

Relax old man, being 58 might make your patience load slower than Windows 95, but that’s no reason to be rude to someone just asking a normal question.

And your point is? I may be retired and have plenty of spare time, but that dumb attempt at a put down isn’t worth any of it.

@FutoiOtaku

My dear grandpa my point is, with all that free time, you could be out feeding ducks at the park. Instead you’re here snapping at harmless questions. Who knew it takes more than 58 years to outgrow tantrums?

Aug 27, 2025 6:54 PM

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Ripperdoc said:
@FutoiOtaku

My dear grandpa my point is, with all that free time, you could be out feeding ducks at the park. Instead you’re here snapping at harmless questions. Who knew it takes more than 58 years to outgrow tantrums?

So the most sarcastic piss taker on the whole forum has honoured little OLD me for some hypocrisy and prejudice. Take a hike, I couldn’t give a shit about your sad bitching, I wasn’t talking to you when you RUDELY interrupted. Maybe let the OP decide how to respond hah? Jeez what an entitled loser kid!

Aug 27, 2025 7:01 PM

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FutoiOtaku said:

Ripperdoc said:
@FutoiOtaku

My dear grandpa my point is, with all that free time, you could be out feeding ducks at the park. Instead you’re here snapping at harmless questions. Who knew it takes more than 58 years to outgrow tantrums?

So the most sarcastic piss taker on the whole forum has honoured little OLD me for some hypocrisy and prejudice. Take a hike, I couldn’t give a shit about your sad bitching, I wasn’t talking to you when you RUDELY interrupted. Maybe let the OP decide how to respond hah? Jeez what an entitled loser kid!

Everything’s okay grandpa, don’t let the blood pressure spike over some lousy kids like me. Drink a warm cup of milk, put on your slippers and head off for your nap. The forum will still be here when you wake up refreshed from your short snooze.

Aug 27, 2025 7:25 PM

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Ripperdoc said:

FutoiOtaku said:

So the most sarcastic piss taker on the whole forum has honoured little OLD me for some hypocrisy and prejudice. Take a hike, I couldn’t give a shit about your sad bitching, I wasn’t talking to you when you RUDELY interrupted. Maybe let the OP decide how to respond hah? Jeez what an entitled loser kid!

Everything’s okay grandpa, don’t let the blood pressure spike over some lousy kids like me. Drink a warm cup of milk, put on your slippers and head off for your nap. The forum will still be here when you wake up refreshed from your short snooze.

Such a funny guy! Just cruising the threads looking for someone to bait. When I’ve finished feeding the ducks at 3am to make you happy I will of course make a nice relaxing brew. But I’m sure while I’m enjoying that, you will be continuing to masturbate over your huge self esteem, thinking your clever witticisms were soooooo cool. I may be ageing a little, but it will be a quite while yet before you reach maturity. Keep them pathetic comments coming, at least someone else is getting a break while you make a jackass of yourself here.

Aug 27, 2025 7:39 PM

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it is excessive. other shows dont use them this much. Even Waguri usually just brushes them off when people say it

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Aug 27, 2025 9:22 PM

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true i get annoyed sometimes

Aug 27, 2025 10:03 PM

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There are several reasons for this:

1. Politeness is instilled in (east) Asian cultures. Children are taught to be as polite as possible, and parents are often quite strict on this.
2. The characters carry a lot of trauma and past hardships, and apologizing excessively is a very common habit.

Aug 27, 2025 10:34 PM

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Yeah, I agree with you. It's too much.

Aug 28, 2025 12:06 AM

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FutoiOtaku said:
It’s how Japanese society works. How many anime do you need to watch before figuring that out? Watch Disney channel if you find typical Japanese behaviour annoying. Or battle shonen.

No, it only works such way in Kyoto or in rural areas, which this anime is obviously not in such setting.

Aug 28, 2025 12:15 AM

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Opticflash said:
There are several reasons for this:

1. Politeness is instilled in (east) Asian cultures. Children are taught to be as polite as possible, and parents are often quite strict on this.
2. The characters carry a lot of trauma and past hardships, and apologizing excessively is a very common habit.

Your East Asia here only mean Japan and Taiwan, obviously not including China and Korea in your context.

To be serious though, regional variance in Japan is large enough to prove your statement is wrong… if it’s in rural setting then you are right (Tagaki reference), but in cities, no.

Aug 28, 2025 1:54 AM

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Opticflash said:
There are several reasons for this:

1. Politeness is instilled in (east) Asian cultures. Children are taught to be as polite as possible, and parents are often quite strict on this.
2. The characters carry a lot of trauma and past hardships, and apologizing excessively is a very common habit.

Lol the "traumas" are even more exaggerated.

Aug 28, 2025 2:57 AM

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Ripperdoc

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ForestWoodSL said:

FutoiOtaku said:
It’s how Japanese society works. How many anime do you need to watch before figuring that out? Watch Disney channel if you find typical Japanese behaviour annoying. Or battle shonen.

No, it only works such way in Kyoto or in rural areas, which this anime is obviously not in such setting.

Hey, don't anger old grandpa like I did. His blood pressure can't take it.

Aug 28, 2025 8:47 AM

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ForestWoodSL said:

FutoiOtaku said:
It’s how Japanese society works. How many anime do you need to watch before figuring that out? Watch Disney channel if you find typical Japanese behaviour annoying. Or battle shonen.

No, it only works such way in Kyoto or in rural areas, which this anime is obviously not in such setting.

Rubbish. Yes there are different levels of politeness varying from person to person, and in big cities a bit of coldness towards foreigners more from fear of misunderstanding than dislike, but generally with half the population over 60 old values are holding up well. There are sub-groups of society trying to become western, but even in Tokyo they are a minority. Have you been, and do you have some ability to speak Japanese? I have and found the attitudes of young and old to be refreshingly kind and thoughtful.

Aug 28, 2025 8:50 AM

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Ripperdoc said:

ForestWoodSL said:

No, it only works such way in Kyoto or in rural areas, which this anime is obviously not in such setting.

Hey, don't anger old grandpa like I did. His blood pressure can't take it.

Such a witty individual, good job my bladder control hasn’t failed yet or I might have ruined my incontinence pad.
Seriously have you nothing better to do than troll without adding anything to any discussion?

Aug 28, 2025 10:38 AM

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“Sorry” is used quite a lot in Japanese culture and Anime’s. However, I’ll agree that this series overuses it. There’s been a few moments I’m like OMG stop apologizing back and forth over something trivial or already apologized for.

The show shines brightest when being thankful for the good moments. The contrast helps but there’s other ways to show sorrow than regret and apology.

It’s small stuff like this that prevents me from rating the show a 10. I also think the series could have lent a little more screen time to world building.

Aug 28, 2025 10:47 AM

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mira_211 said:
What I think is that they use it excessively now and later it’ll lessen and lessen until the over-politeness is gone. I’m assuming it’s there as a small detail to eventually show the progression in their relationship. But that’s just my theory if it even makes sense.

it would be better if that's the case

Aug 28, 2025 10:52 AM

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Ripperdoc said:

FutoiOtaku said:
It’s how Japanese society works. How many anime do you need to watch before figuring that out? Watch Disney channel if you find typical Japanese behaviour annoying. Or battle shonen.

Relax old man, being 58 might make your patience load slower than Windows 95, but that’s no reason to be rude to someone just asking a normal question.

That’s okay bro just let him be.. I dont wanna beef with the elders.. at least there’s no JoeChip in this post 😂

Aug 28, 2025 11:18 AM

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UpToNoGood said:

Ripperdoc said:

Relax old man, being 58 might make your patience load slower than Windows 95, but that’s no reason to be rude to someone just asking a normal question.

That’s okay bro just let him be.. I dont wanna beef with the elders.. at least there’s no JoeChip in this post 😂

True bro, no point beefing with the elder council

Aug 28, 2025 11:19 AM

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Reply to ForestWoodSL

Opticflash said:
There are several reasons for this:

1. Politeness is instilled in (east) Asian cultures. Children are taught to be as polite as possible, and parents are often quite strict on this.
2. The characters carry a lot of trauma and past hardships, and apologizing excessively is a very common habit.

Your East Asia here only mean Japan and Taiwan, obviously not including China and Korea in your context.

To be serious though, regional variance in Japan is large enough to prove your statement is wrong… if it’s in rural setting then you are right (Tagaki reference), but in cities, no.

@ForestWoodSL It absolutely does. Children in China for example are taught to be as polite as possible to people. They get constantly judged by their parents on things such as table manners and manners in general. Even your posture can be criticized. People want to avoid conflict, be seen as respectful, and don't want to lose face. It partly makes the parents look bad if the kid isn't polite, and hence kids tend to grow up with certain ethical values. You can see this with east Asian kids in general who grow up in western countries.

Many users have pointed out that this is hardly noticeable to Japanese viewers. This apology aspect is hardly mentioned by them at all; it's mainly western viewers that appear to be weirded out by it.

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Aug 28, 2025 2:08 PM

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they're japanese of course they're going to be polite, it's not exaggerated at all. wait for the latest chapters to be animated, then we talk

Aug 29, 2025 4:16 AM

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It's supposed to be a super wholesome anime. You'd better get used to it cuz it's not going away.

"Nobody could laugh at someone who's trying their hardest" -Machio-

Aug 29, 2025 7:57 AM

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The dialogue is what makes the show.
Like many others said, being polite and respectful, even overly so, is a natural part of Japanese culture. Especially when it's people in opposing groups sorting out their differences and becoming friends - they definitely don't want to say or do the wrong thing so they end up apologising more than necessary.

Aug 29, 2025 7:46 PM

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i mean its about two very respectable and polite japanese citizens so i don't see it as a flaw. Also its just an all-round solid anime so even if this did bother me i wouldn't rly care enough to make a whole post about it

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